Hi all and welcome or welcome back to Style Medium, thank you for joining me for another week of expression through style.
My aim here at Style Medium is to help you express yourself through your style. I do this by giving you styling tips, outfit ideas and latest trends. I also use the medium of fashion and style to tell stories and inspire you to be the best you!
You may or may not have noticed but I was away last week as I was on a little mini break with my mum to the beautiful costal city of Albufeira in Portugal so there was no blog post. To see what I got up to follow me on instagram and on my insta stories highlight under travel.
We are finally getting some good weather and as it is wedding season I wanted to give you a wedding guest outfit to inspire you on what to wear as a wedding guest this season. In today's post I will also be sharing with you ways in which I try and stop comparing myself with others and how you can too.
Comparison kills as the saying goes, especially in this day of social media it is so easy to focus on someone else's seemingly success in comparison to ours and think what we have pales in comparison. It could be in any area of life but its usually, finances, romantic relationship material stuff, beauty etc.
I must admit that my "vice" is ambition, I am seeing people on my timeline and feed getting engaged, getting married, having babies etc and I must be honest I am not moved at all by any of that. But let me see a twenty something year old paying off student loans, getting a house, a car, well paying job then I start to get in my feelings.
I must also admit I am a victim so to speak of this whole celebrity culture (a blog post for a different day) especially when I see Black/Nigerian/British twenty something year olds doing their thing and doing it big.
The likes of Letitia Wright, John Boyega, Daniel Kaluya ( I could go on) who are doing it for the culture and making a mark on their generation, I am fully behind them, supporting and cheering them on. But there is also that part of me thats like but when will it be my turn, I too DESERVE SOME ACCOLADES!!!
Questions of self doubt start to pop into my head such as is my content actually good? if so why it is not reflecting in working with brands n companies etc, when will I be the next big thing? So when I find myself in moments like this, keep reading to find out what I do to keep myself in check.
1. I self-evaluate, I ask myself WHY i'm I comparing, WHAT is it about this person that is making me compare or covet what they have. Once I find the root or the reason then I am able to work from there. Most times I find that the person is thriving in areas I also want to thrive in so it motivates me to put the work in.
2. I go out of my way to compliment or show GENUINE love and support to those who I am inspired by and find I am comparing myself to. Because it takes nothing away from me by supporting others and showing them love.
3. I focus on the positives in my life rather than the negatives . I encourage myself, and show some love and support to myself the same way I do to others. It could be as simple as telling myself the content I put out is actually good (because it is) and I don't need the validation of others before I start to believe it.
Also I stop putting pressure on myself by trying to achieve what society and culture thinks I should have by a certain age and I choose to write my own narrative.
4. Unfollow, block, don’t spend too much time on social media, this is therapy for the soul. As much as I love supporting people, I also love my sanity so where I can, I weed out the content that I consume. I remove content that does not add anything constructive to my life and mental health but does more damage. Like I said Comparison kills.
5. I stay in my creative lane ( More of this in another blog post), I find what I am good at and work everyday to be the best me.
Thank you guys for joining me this week, I hope my tips on how to kill comparison has helped you. Let me know in the comments below.
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Have an amazing week Expressing Yourself Through Your Style.